Quiet Confidence: 7 Compelling Benefits You’ll Want

This growable quality leads to a richer life

Some of the most admired, magnetic and attractive people in this world share this powerful trait: a healthy form of self-confidence.

No, I’m not talking about an ego-fueled “I’m always right, I’m so awesome, you’re an idiot if you don’t listen to me” type of confidence in self. That is actually a sign you are insecure.

Instead, I am talking about men and women who have
a quiet poise and self-assurance about who they are
and what they have to do… while being free from
self-promotion and ego.

I want to be more like that… don’t you?

Fortunately, this type of quiet self-confidence can be strengthened in you. Keep reading to learn how you can grow this quality in your life.

But first, just in case you doubt whether it is worth the effort to cultivate this quality, here are 7 desirable advantages that come from possessing this healthy form of self-confidence.

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Doubt Yourself & Impostor Syndrome: a Global Problem

Learn 3 Ways to Silence the Doubting Voices

“I don’t know what I’m doing”
“I’m out of my league”
“I don’t belong here”
“If others really knew how incompetent I am…”

We ALL have doubting
thoughts at times about
our competence and value.

But here’s the crazy thing: even the people we admire the most, who seem to have it together  and who really are smart and competent… they too struggle with doubts about themselves.

It’s called Impostor’s Syndrome.

A collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. ‘Impostors suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence.

We are not talking about incompetent people being afraid of being found out. Many of the most competent people you can imagine struggle with self-doubt.

For example…

“The exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.” – Albert Einstein

Researchers have estimated that up to 70% of the population has experienced the feelings associated with Impostor Syndrome.

I think the problem of self-doubt in general (impostor syndrome being one expression) is a more pervasive problem. I think it is safe to say that 100% of every living, breathing human struggles at times and in certain contexts with the doubting voices.

For example, Mike Cannon-Brookes, the co-founder of Atlassian (a global company with thousands of employees that provides a product used by millions), says…

“Most days, I feel like I don’t really know what I’m doing.”

Why do we often experience self-doubt… even when we have no logical reason to be?

More importantly, how can we quiet the doubting thoughts and legitimately feel better about ourselves?

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Slow Down: Hurry is Silently Ruining the Life You Want

Here are 10 Ways You Can Reduce Feeling Hurried & Regain Control

 

“I wanted to figure out how to make my life less hectic,
but I never seemed to have enough time to do it.”

Slow down from hurryAre you feeling it? Are you tired of it?

I’m talking about the hectic pace of life. Too much to do… and never enough time. Hurry, hurry, hurry. Can’t slow down.

Research has now revealed a disturbing dark side to all this go, go, go… even beyond the physical toll it takes.

In fact, the effects of busyness are actually MUCH WORSE than you think … if you desire a life of greater impact and significance.

Here’s why: It is actually preventing you from living the life you really want.

But, the good news is there are ways to reduce the negative effects. Over the last year I have been experimenting with ways to get off the crazy ride of busyness. I am encouraged by what I have discovered.

Ready to get off the crazy ride? Read on.

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The Arrival Fallacy: Why Reaching a Goal Can Leave You Bummed

Here’s how to energize your goals and reduce disappointments

Has this every happened to you? You had a dream or goal you were pursuing… and it meant a LOT to you.

Arrival fallacy letdown

You were striving and stretching to reach this important goal because you knew achieving it would be so awesome… maybe even a game changer.

  • Getting that degree
  • Losing 30 pounds
  • Getting that promotion or your business to the next level

Yet, when you reached your goal, you found yourself surprisingly underwhelmed by how you felt. Sure, it felt great… but the thrill of victory evaporated as quickly as the morning dew.

I recently learned the science behind why this happens. This common experience has been called the Arrival Fallacy, where the anticipated payoff and the experience of the actual payoff are very different.

Why does this happen? More importantly, what can you do to avoid this empty feeling?

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When Personal Growth Tips & Hacks Fail You

What to do when a "proven" technique doesn’t work for you

When live gets too hardWhy do you read Wise Insights? What’re you hoping to get from this content?

My guess is you want to learn about research-backed techniques and time-tested insights that can help you…

  • Overcome obstacles and keep you moving forward
  • Understand human mental quirks so you can make better decisions and avoid regrets
  • Become the best version of yourself that you can be (leading to a better life).

To this end, Wise Insights reveals techniques to… 

  • Increase your motivation, joy and influence
  • Reduce your stress & handle irrational fears
  • Grow in your emotional intelligence and intellectual humility
  • Better connect with people
  • and so much more.

But here’s the question for today: What do you do when the techniques don’t seem to be enough to improve your situation?

Read on to learn what I do when the tips, tricks and techniques aren’t doing the trick.

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One Powerful Trick To Boost Your Lagging Motivation

How to change a task from "have-to" into "want-to"

So many worlds, so much to do,
so little [truly getting] done
.
-Alfred Lord Tennyson

Are you like me?

… Motivated to make progress in your life, filled with lofty goals, energized by where you want to see your life?

… but you find yourself spending waaay too much time doing the have-to’s and not the want-to’s?

You know what I am talking about. The have-to tasks demand much of our time, but return very little in the way of satisfaction, energy, or motivation. You just gotta grind them out and get-r-done.

Is there a way to transform the “have to” tasks into “want to” tasks?

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3 Proven Ways to Boost Your Daily Joy (Research-Backed)

How Your Mood Can Be Less Circumstance Dependent

Circumstance protected joyI have a dream. I’ll bet you share it, too.

I have a dream that I could get to the place where I could experience a deep, sustaining joy… every day.

The kind of joy that isn’t touched by the challenges and storms of life.

Now, I am not naïve. There is no such thing as a happy pill that will make life all sunshine and smiles. I know that life can be difficult. I know the impact of circumstances will affect me until the day I die.

But, wouldn’t it be great if we were able to increase the frequency and experience of the “good days” and decrease the impact of the “bad days”?

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3 Simple Actions to Become a Better You

These Foundational Actions Can Snowball Over Time

There’s not a person out there who doesn’t want to improve their lives. It’s ingrained in us. We want to be the best that we can be.

Image by Rama V.

So why do so few of us actually take the needed steps
to improve our lives?

Much like anything else in life, I think the answer is we
overcomplicate what really needs to be done to be better.

We formulate grand schemes. We layout everything at once.  We look at the big picture.

And then we get hit with the overwhelm.

Taking a look at the overall plan, we see no way to better ourselves.We become paralyzed with analysis paralysis.

Just like our answers should be simple, we can break down a better you through baby steps. Eventually, the baby steps will snowball into breakthrough.

To become a better you, try adding or beefing up these three actions to your life:

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One Simple Way to Improve Your Current Situation

Sometimes a small adjustment can make a big difference

This quote has had a profoundly positive impact on me. In many ways, it changed my life.

“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
– Maya Angelou

I used to whine about EVERYTHING I didn’t like. Like a malignant Johnny Appleseed, I spread my complaints far and wide to all who would listen.

No wonder people didn’t want to be around me… except for fellow whiners.

Ironically, but not surprisingly, I didn’t always want to be around my fellow whiners. Somehow, I didn’t see the connection.

Here’s how all that changed…

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Reaching Your Goals: the 5-Step Process for Success

Make greater progress by following this formula

We must all suffer one of two things:                                       
the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.
-Jim Rohn

Are you 100% satisfied with where you are in your life? Things couldn’t be more perfect?

Or, if you are like the vast majority of us, are there things – a LOT of things – that could be better…or at least improved upon?

Assuming you do want change, and you are able to see those improvements in your life, what would your life look like a year from now? How about five years from now?

Got that successful “future you” and improved life situation pictured in your head? Good! Now, here’s the tricky part. How do you get there from here?

Remember all those New Year’s resolutions that came to naught? “I’m going to lose thirty pounds this year,” or “This is the year I am going to get my finances in order!”

But it didn’t quite happen.

If it were so darn easy to decide on a goal and make it a reality, this whole life thing would be a piece of cake – that somebody else baked for us.

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