Consistently making good decisions is not easy.
As a student of decision making, I have discovered LOTS of reasons you and I make lousy, or shall we say “less than optimum” decisions. I have undoubtedly experienced all of them many times over. You have, too.
There is one reason we need to talk about that is extremely frustrating to deal with… especially when others around you do it. So much so, that you are tempted to utter an F word.
This cause of poor decision making is also a 4-letter F word… FEAR.
If not addressed, fear will not only affect your decisions today but will also reduce your ability to improve your decision-making abilities in the future. Not good.
Have you seen a dumb decision being made by someone?
Isn’t your first thought: What were you thinking?
But, I also have a second thought: How can I avoid a bad decision? …so others don’t think the first thought about me. 🙂
Here are 5 really funny, but dumb decisions that prompt the first question.
… then I want to show you 2 ways to avoid bad decisions in the future. (more…)
Nate was wrestling with God again.
He wanted to choose the path God had for him. He wanted to exercise good decision making in God’s will.
The problem was he didn’t know what God wanted him to do.
Oh sure, he knew God didn’t want him murdering someone or stealing their stuff. But, the situation he faced was not so clear cut.
How could Nate be sure the decision he was making would be pleasing to God and turn out well? (more…)
Have you ever thought you were making good decisions that promised to make life better… and instead things got worse?
Things go off the road… and you are now a passenger in the unfolding of events?
Then a friend of yours, trying to be encouraging, says “it will get better! The disaster is actually a blessing! It’ll eventually turn out good…”
After shooting them and disposing of their body, you want to scream, “Why did this happen? It seemed like I made a good decision at the time!”
What you may not know is there was something influencing your decision that you couldn’t see. (more…)
Have you wrestled over how to make a difficult decision?
What makes that decision all the more difficult is when you remember previous decisions that blew up in your face.
You think, “God, I don’t want that to happen again.”
So, how do you choose wisely… and prevent an outcome you regret? (more…)
Trying to make better decisions today can be soooooo frustrating.
Even when you really, really want to make the best decision, and you take time to think it through, it often turns out less than you hoped.
Here’s the problem — we typically make decisions based on a faulty process. No matter how deliberate you are, if the way you make decisions is screwed up… you will get screwed up decisions.
But, there is a simple approach you can use that will significantly increase the odds of a good outcome.
“I want to make the best, most
optimum decisions because better
decisions will lead to a better life.”
I applaud that desire. It is a core message of this website.
Unfortunately, optimum decision making in a given situation depends on a number of factors… all of which can derail your best intentions.
Fortunately, there is one small factor that can quickly and easily be leveraged to improve your decision making.
“Small hinges can swing big doors.”
If you take this factor into consideration in your daily decision making, you WILL see better outcomes. If you don’t, well… all your good intentions will not be enough to overcome the results.
“I didn’t have to choose the way I did. I just couldn’t help myself.”
Something strange and irrational often goes on in the human heart. See if this rings a bell for you.
At certain times you seem to have freedom to make choices that you are proud of—
- I am going to stick to my diet this time (I have a very strong desire to do this).
- I will pay down my debt and/or save money (I am committed and motivated to do this).
- I’m done with pornography (the thought of going down that path again disgusts me).
- I am going to work on and finish this project (this is something I really want to complete)
But at other times it seems like you are being pulled, almost compelled to choose a lesser option. A feeling comes over you: I really WANT TO do this other option right now (even when it undermines the better option you say you want).
Sadly, it’s not the one you really want (when you are thinking straight).
“I didn’t have to choose it. I just couldn’t help myself.”
How can you have MORE freedom to choose the wisest, best options… at those times when it feels like you are being compelled to choose the lesser option?
Do you like being deceived? You know, being led to believe one thing… but reality is quite different?
Pardon my French, but h*!ll no.
As bad as that is, it gets worse. Not only are you being fooled, what if I told you there is something in our human wiring that causes us to be fooled again and again by this same illusion?
Worse still, this illusion often leads to unnecessary stress, anxiety, frustration, fear and many other negative emotions.
If you can recognize this deception and counteract it, your life will have … lower stress and anxiety, plus greater peace and hopefulness. (more…)
Making better decisions isn’t always easy (is that a Captain Obvious statement, or what?).
The best decision makers go to their decision making “tool kit” and try out different tools to see if one or more helps clarify which way they should go.
There was a particular tool (I’ll call it a technique) used by Amazon.com founder Jeff Bezos when he was trying to determine if he should start Amazon in the first place.
When Bezos used this technique, things became very clear about what he should do. In fact, he found it so helpful, that he has continued to use it regularly for decisions big and small. (more…)