“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
– Maya Angelou
This quote has had a profoundly positive impact on me. In many ways, it changed my life.
I used to whine about EVERYTHING I didn’t like. Like a malignant Johnny Appleseed, I spread my complaints far and wide to all who would listen.
No wonder people didn’t want to be around me… except for fellow whiners.
Ironically, but not surprisingly, I didn’t always want to be around my fellow whiners. Somehow, I didn’t see the connection.
But, now as a recovering complainer, I realize I need to take action instead of sitting back and whining with fellow complainers.
First, I proactively try to change the situation.
- What can I do to improve the situation?
- Are there others I can enlist who can make a difference?
- Am I approaching it constructively… or just critically?
But, if it can’t be changed, I proactively seek to change my attitude and perspective about the situation.
- I remind myself that “this too shall pass.” Nothing lasts forever.
- I (daily, hourly) choose to make the best of a tough situation.
- I recognize that I can personally grow in and through the situation. “What tried to demolish me, I choose to allow it to polish me.”
Plus, I give it to God. I’ll let him handle it and/or work in me to have a better attitude. It may be unchangeable from my resources… but not God’s.
I’m not saying it is easy. You don’t just snap your fingers and things change. Everyday you need to make the choice on how you deal with difficulty.
I’m not totally and consistently there. But, I am reaping the harvest of healthier choices.
Will you join me on the road to recovery from being a serial complainer?
YOUR TURN! Leave a comment below – How have you sought to be more proactive when facing a tough situation?