Wishing for Better Times & “Wasting” Your Problems

Here’s a More Empowering Approach to Life’s Challenges

Making a wish with a wishboneDon’t wish it was easier, wish you were better.
Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills.
Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”
— Jim Rohn

I’ve got a confession to make.

For a loooong time, when I was faced with a difficult situation, I would turn to God and plead with him to change the situation… and/or deliver me from it. That was my exclusive focus.

Now, it is good to pray… and to seek divine help. I do this regularly. The people who pray in the Bible often pray for God’s deliverance. But, those situations were typically things far beyond one’s control (e.g. an invading army, a drought).

But, I didn’t understand the whole picture.

What I had to learn

Here’s what I needed to learn, and you need to remember: There are many situations where YOU are still in play. You DO have options… and opportunity.

In those situations, you have an opportunity to grow in and through that situation. To wish or seek to pray it away misses a huge opportunity for your development.

When life gets tough, do you focus only on escape? Diversion? Deliverance? Or learning and growing?

Real-life Example

Let me give you real-life example. Recently, I had a conversation with someone who is in major debt. This isn’t the first time. They got an inheritance and paid off a significant debt almost a year ago. Yet, here they are again, owing $20,000+ because they can’t say no to themselves or others.

This person lamented to me, “I just wish God would take this debt away…”

What do you think God would say to them? I think he would say (to paraphrase Jim Rohn’s quote):

“Don’t wish your debt would just magically go away. Instead, understand why you are here again. Learn how you need to handle money differently. Devise ways to live within your means and not spend money you don’t have.”

What challenging situations are you facing right now that are in fact opportunities for you to grow?

How You Look at Life

Our mindset in our challenges needs to be:

  • Don’t [passively] wish it was easier. Instead, work to make yourself better.
  • Don’t [passively] wish for less problems. Instead, work to acquire more skills (and sharpen the ones you do have) so you can handle future problems better.
  • Don’t [passively] wish for less challenge. Instead, seek to grow in wisdom so you can handle future challenges with greater discernment.

This is the type of mindset most highly successful people have. Here is fascinating research on how to develop and strengthen this type of growth mindset.

Your Turn!

What are you facing right now that can be leveraged as a learning, growing experience? Leave a comment below on your decision to grow… and we will support you in your efforts.

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4 thoughts on “Wishing for Better Times & “Wasting” Your Problems

  1. Thanks for the 411 on realism! That`s exactly what I did (Add new and challenging skills). Money management was my main weakness. I opted for a Financial career and even one-upped myself by picking up Wall Street skills (Financial Engineering). I used to be homeless in a cozy neighborhood in Buckhead, Atlanta for 7 years, and the bench I used to sleep on was right adjacent to Charles Schwab and the Grand Hyatt on Peachtree Road. Folks from the investment bank used to come over and kill time with me and talk about all the money they were making. They used to say that I was smart and should get up and do what they were doing–that simple, ha? I used to believe that I could do that and better! I`m on that very path now…, time to Summit! (https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelnyaga-kenya/)

  2. Nice to hear from you Michael! What an incredible story that fits perfectly with the quote “Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.” I am applauding you right now 🙂

  3. This is helpful. It’s reminding me that all too often I let myself just find ways to cope with disappointment, rather than devise a plan to migrate to a better reality. Your webinar last week really drove home how to make progress by just taking little steps, something we’re all more than capable of doing without disrupting my normal lifestyle. Your insights, or should I say wiseinsight is helpful in my daily life, thank you. 🙂

  4. Thanks Kevin for your kind words. I love how you are planning to apply the article in a concrete way by “devising a plan to migrate to a better reality.” Excellent!