Making better decisions isn’t always easy (is that a Captain Obvious statement, or what?).
The best decision makers go to their decision making “tool kit” and try out different tools to see if one or more helps clarify which way they should go.
There was a particular tool (I’ll call it a technique) used by Amazon.com founder Jeff Bezos when he was trying to determine if he should start Amazon in the first place.
When Bezos used this technique, things became very clear about what he should do. In fact, he found it so helpful, that he has continued to use it regularly for decisions big and small. (more…)
In 2016, the movie Split was based on a man with multiple personalities (who did some very bad things).
Without all the bad, I sometimes think I may have multiple personalities, too.
Here’s why: there is a part of me that is VERY eager to do more, see more, be more. I have dreams and ambitions that excite me sooo much. I feel very motivated to reach new heights.
But, then there’s another part of me.
This other side of me constantly yearns for relaxing, or for taking it easy because I am tired or stressed. Or it convinces me to pursue my dreams later, when I will feel more motivated, or more energetic or clearheaded.
Does this sound familiar? You have good things you really want to do… but when it comes to the daily decisions affecting those good things, you keep choosing the easy route?
Stay with me here. I want to share some research insights that can help you escape your comfort zone and get where you really want to go.
“You have to be honest about what you really want and be willing to take risks [to get there] rather than lie to yourself and make excuses to stay in your comfort zone.” – Roy T. Bennett
I’ve always had this restless tension (which has been growing recently), to…
- Go further
- Accomplish more
- Have greater impact
- Make a bigger difference
…but, I can quickly come up with all sorts of reasons why I can’t get started until tomorrow, next week, next year.
- Not enough time
- Not enough resources
- Time commitment to my family
Those are all true. Sigh! Always true.
Are you destined to remain trapped because of your schedule limitations? Nope… not if you reach this crucial point.
“I wanted to figure out how to make my life less hectic,
but I never seemed to have enough time to do it.”
Are you feeling it? Are you tired of it?
I’m talking about the hectic pace of life. Too much to do… and never enough time. Hurry, hurry, hurry. Can’t slow down.
Research has now revealed a disturbing dark side to all this go, go, go… even beyond the physical toll it takes.
In fact, the effects of busyness are actually MUCH WORSE than you think … if you desire a life of greater impact and significance.
Here’s why: It is actually preventing you from living the life you really want.
But, the good news is there are ways to reduce the negative effects. Over the last year I have been experimenting with ways to get off the crazy ride of busyness. I am encouraged by what I have discovered.
Ready to get off the crazy ride? Read on.
Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better.
Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills.
Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”
— Jim Rohn
I’ve got a confession to make.
For a loooong time, when I was faced with a difficult situation, I would turn to God and plead with him to change the situation… and/or deliver me from it. That was my exclusive focus.
Now, it is good to pray… and to seek divine help. I do this regularly. The people who pray in the Bible often pray for God’s deliverance. But, those situations were typically things far beyond one’s control (e.g. an invading army, a drought).
But, I didn’t understand the whole picture. (more…)
Change your thoughts
and you change your world.
– Norman Vincent Peale
This is a profound quote… but let’s be honest. It can be a little frustrating to hear (at least at first).
It’s like being told, “Make a million dollars, and your world will change!”
Umm, ok, I agree… but how do I do the first part?
Have you ever tried to change your thoughts or at least stop a particular thought from dominating your mind?
- Worried thoughts
- Angry thoughts
- Woe is me thoughts
- Give up thoughts
It seems impossible to change certain thoughts… but thankfully there is a technique that does work.
When you consistently apply this technique, everything changes for the good. I can say that from personal experience. 🙂 (more…)
What is the number one key to success in life?
If you have it, sky’s the limit. If you don’t, you will struggle to find sustained success.
Although there are many factors that contribute to success in life, one in particular seems to be the prerequisite upon which all the others are built.
Build this one success factor into your life and all the other dominoes fall into place.
Hint: the answer isn’t what you think.
How to think like successful people… that is something you must understand if you want to see greater levels of success.
Here’s why this is so important: from the outside you can’t see the REAL DIFFERENCE MAKER to one’s success.
For example, if you took…
100 highly successful individuals (success defined as those reaching their goals)
– and compared them to –
100 individuals who look the same from the naked eye but who keep struggling
… is there a difference maker?
- Both groups work hard… check!
- Both groups are intelligent… check!
- Both groups have talent… check!
To identify the difference, you need to go below the surface. At the core of each group is a radically different way of thinking.
A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes,
smart enough to profit from them,
and strong enough to correct them.
– John C. Maxwell
Never, ever be afraid of making mistakes.
First, they are inevitable… so relax. You are human like everyone else.
Second, mistakes are an opportunity to grow. It is through mistakes that you learn about yourself and can become a better version of the current you. Here’s how the most successful people in life do this.
Third, if you handle them properly, you will gain sooo much more than if you were mistake-less.
How? When you own your mistakes honestly, you gain new respect from others for handling them well. Imagine how refreshing that will be in a world of people scrambling to protect their image at all costs.
But, how do you handle those really painful mistakes that make you particularly mad at (or disappointed with) yourself? (more…)
“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
– Maya Angelou
This quote has had a profoundly positive impact on me. In many ways, it changed my life. (more…)